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The five points of a star reveal your relationship. Review the examples below, then try it yourself.

Sarah's Star Chart

Star Score

8.5/10

Close Friend

Score Breakdown:

Personal Time (30%)8/10

Common Ground (25%)9/10

Familiarity (20%)9/10

Interest (15%)9/10

Proximity (10%)7/10

Total8.5

How to Read the Star Chart

The Relation Star Chart visualizes five key dimensions of your relationship, scored from 0-10. Dimensions are weighted differently in the score based on their relative impact.

Personal Time (30%): Time spent focusing on each other (not tasks or large groups). Weighted highest because this is the primary way deep relationships are built.
Common Ground (25%): Shared identity, experiences, interests, and values that create natural connection points. Essential for having things to talk about and do together.
Familiarity (20%): How well you know them (from basic recognition to deep understanding). Knowing someone deeply enables trust and vulnerability.
Interest (15%): Your desire, ability, and commitment to the relationship. Your investment matters, but actions (time spent) matter more than intentions.
Proximity (10%): How often you're near this person physically, emotionally, and through shared groups.Proximity creates opportunities, but doesn't guarantee depth.

The star points matter! Each glowing point extends outward from the center based on that dimension's strength. A larger star with points reaching further out indicates a stronger relationship. Shorter points reveal areas where the relationship could grow.

Understanding Your Star Score

The Star Score is determined like this:

Star Score =

Personal Time × 30%

+ Common Ground × 25%

+ Familiarity × 20%

+ Interest × 15%

+ Proximity × 10%

Why these weights? Personal time is the primary way deep relationships are built (30%). Common ground provides essential connection points (25%). Familiarity enables trust (20%). Your interest matters, but actions are more important than intentions (15%). Proximity creates opportunities but doesn't guarantee depth (10%).

Score Ranges:

8-10: Close Friend
5-7: Friend
3-4: Acquaintance
1-2: Nodding Acquaintance
0: Stranger

Example Insights

Sarah (Close Friend) - Score: 8.5

Sarah's star is large and well-balanced. High scores across all dimensions indicate a strong, healthy friendship. You've invested significant personal time together (8/10), shared formative experiences (9/10), and know each other deeply (9/10). This is a close friendship with strong mutual commitment.

Mike (Work Colleague) - Score: 4.2

Mike's star shows high proximity (9/10) but low personal time (2/10). This is typical of work relationships—you see each other often and collaborate on tasks, but haven't spent much relationship-focused time together. The algorithm correctly identifies this as an acquaintance, not a friend, despite the high task-focused time (9/10).

Alex (Acquaintance) - Score: 4.0

Alex's star is smaller and more evenly distributed at moderate levels. You have some desire to deepen the relationship (6/10) but haven't yet invested much personal time (3/10) or built deep familiarity (4/10). This represents potential—with intentional effort, this could grow into a friendship.

Key Insight: Personal Time Matters Most

Notice how Mike (work colleague) has high proximity but a low Star Score. This is intentional. The algorithm heavily weights Personal Time (30%), followed by Common Ground (25%) and Familiarity (20%). You can spend 40 hours a week with someone on work projects and still be acquaintances if you never spend time focusing on each other as people or building common ground beyond work.